Karl Ayling


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By Karl Ayling, Aug 4 2016 05:58PM

News and current affairs reporting has gone through something of a revolution in recent years. Twitter, Yahoo News, Facebook and many other outlets instantly report events every day.

Traditional sources of information, particularly the printed variety are becoming increasingly irrelevant in the modern era.

A few years ago whilst I was still working in the UK financial services sector, I attended a lecture in the City of London given by one of the worlds biggest independent fund managers.

The lecture related to the economic rise of countries in the east. Mainly that of China and India.

This was news from an exclusive source that even to this day I haven't heard in quite the same way.

The main points were that the world economic order was swinging away from the 'West' and back toward the 'East' where the advanced civilisations resided whilst the West was sitting in the dark ages.

The lecturer advised that the cost of doing business east of Rome, was around the same as doing business with the west, with all its taxes and red-tape. This despite the extent of corruption and commonplace bungs, to help get-things-done!

To back this up, there were some startling statistics. The first was that 90/95% of the worlds cranes were east of Dubai. China is in the process of building dozens of cities as millions of people are relocating away from a rural life to congregate, work and live in big new cities.

In fact, China is building around 130 skyscrapers whilst the USA is building just a few.

Furthermore, the growing Chinese middle classes are fixated on certain high-end western brands, such as Audi, VW, and Porsche. Which, it was suggested would see the demise of once great European marques such as Peugeot/Citroen and Renault within 20 years or so - each enjoying substantial French Government support to help keep them going despite a glut of over-produced outdated models being 'parked' in airfields all around the UK and other sites.

Helping fuel this phenomenon is a pretty well educated and competitive, mobile workforce. Chinese products are finding their way into the everyday lives of all of us.

In stark contract, Russia has had the same opportunities to gain and retain its status as a tiger economy, but, has failed to make recent headway. One of the reasons for this, it was suggested, was that the Russians (who practise the same form of Communism as China) just hasn't been able to transform inward looking anti-western rhetoric. To the extent that a recently built Chinese manufacturing city that sits opposite a Russian city, divided by a river border, has economic and infrastructure development that leaves its Russian neighbour in the middle ages. Struggling with alcohol addiction and social deprivation the like of which has not been seen since WW2.

Part of the explanation of Russia's woes comes from the fact the there is a shrinking population with less people being born or immigrating there than are dying. The latest statistics show Russia's population shrank by -0.01% in 2016 whilst China's grew by 1.382% despite the effect of stringent population control measures in the last few decades.

So in summary from what I have learned,it looks to me like one nation wants to grow economically, expand its manufacturing into new world markets and tackle the apparently detrimental Communist legacy to which it adheres. And one does not.

To end on a surprising note: At the current rate of growth, the Chinese church will be one of the biggest in the world inside 20 years. Russia has just announced and is enforcing draconian anti-religion measures throughout the country.

Bye for now

God bless


By Karl Ayling, Jul 12 2016 09:33PM

If you have read my blog before, you will know that I am fond of a statistic or two. What follows is a general overview.

The research for this blog and the inspiration to write it up has come from several sources this time around. A book called Child Sexual Abuse by David Finkelhor which helped to focus my mind upon the effects of child sexual abuse, its reporting (and lack of reporting) and sociological studies the he has undertaken and compared - of a population in the US.

And, another book called Client-Centred Therapy by Carl R. Rogers which although academic in tone and structure, was really helpful for me to see, in part, my own journey of healing from a clinical perspective.

Lastly the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) and their research which is available free from their web site; https://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/child-sexual-abuse/sexual-abuse-facts-statistics/


The Bible says in Hosea 4:6 my people die for lack of knowledge.

Well, our children are being sexually and physically abused in very big numbers throughout the country. Due in part, to our own parents' conditioning to avoid talking to strangers, don't take sweets from a stranger and do not get into a car with a stranger (sound familiar...?) Is almost totally the wrong teaching for our children.

Over 90% of children sexually abused were abused by someone that they knew. Telling them to be aware of the wrong dangers leaves them vulnerable and unable to defend themselves.

The highest rates of abuse comes from male members of the family, fathers, step-fathers, boyfriends, boyfriends friends, siblings, grand-parents, cousins and family friends. The kind of the people an unsuspecting mother would expect to be trustworthy.

Reasons for the initiation of abuse ranges from relationship breakdown, mental illness and the opportunity - all play a part, as does the economic viability of mothers, with the better off being better equipped to protect their children.

The age at which girls are most vulnerable is between pre-puberty and post-puberty or around 11-14 years and for boys around 7-9 years. Disabled children are three times more likely to be sexually abused. There are, of course, exceptions to the stated examples.

One of the surprising findings of my reading was that unreported abuse is very high for boys. The survey results that impacted me most revealed that 80% of boys don't report sexual abuse and only the most re-portable cases, those that come to the attention of hospitals, social services or the police get added to the statistics. As recent high profile cases have shown, the UK is particularly bad at developing cooperation across the regulated authorities when it comes to child sexual abuse.

One of the reasons given for this lack of reporting was that boys are told 'not to cry' big boys don't cry... and keeping silent helps prevent them confronting the abuser. Some family abuse goes unreported because of the likely economic shock that the loss of a male earner may have on the family - things blow over, no harm done?

The longer term ramifications of our inability to adequately protect our children is vast. Based on an American survey, up to around 20/25% of the population has been subjected to some form of abuse. The UK has a population of 70 million. That's around 10 million people who have had some kind of abuse experience.

Could I hypothesize at this point that there is a link between childhood abuse and adult sexual behaviour? The DNA database accumulated over recent years has yielded up a surprising statistic. Almost 20% of the people in the UK who call daddy, dad are actually deceived. Mother has born someone else's child and passed the child off as the off-spring of their 'partner'

Hard to read but impossible to deny, and the numbers are staggering.

The link goes deep into an emotional fracture which many of us have to some extent. Linked to childhood traumas or perceived traumas, which years later can appear as a permissive sexualised form of behaviour.

Research at a UK university found females more likely to expose more skin (revealed over time by a photo-study) and engage in provocative sexual behaviour, taking up more than one partner, as they approached ovulation in what I believe is a form of natural selection.

It is not a big leap, based on my own experiences to see a link from the permissive family life that we had as children (with little or no supervision at key ages) and the long term impact of the abuse that my father subjected me and others to. In fact, in my book there are examples of the damage that such brokenness can rent upon unsuspecting sexual partners years after abuse stopped.

Counselling has greatly helped me in my personal journey of healing and the NSPCC, https://www.nspcc.org.uk is a good place to make initial inquiries should you feel the need.

God bless you

Bye for now


By Karl Ayling, Jun 27 2016 01:36PM

In my blog of the 22nd June 2016 I set out some musings from my own observations of the IN/OUT campaign and now that the result has been known for a few days, I think there is sufficient news for another little go at putting my thoughts into words.

Firstly, It was a bit of a shock when early on Friday morning that the result was announced and the OUT side was declared the winner of the referendum by a margin of 52% against 48%. In terms of votes a majority of around 1.3M

Having predicted that the Conservative Party would inflect a deadly reaction if they 'lost' it was a courageous and predictable thing that the PM did by resigning so swiftly at 08.20hrs on 24th June.

What was less predictable, but, just a shocking is Labours reaction to the result. At the time of writing 17 members of the opposition cabinet have resigned – with perhaps more yet to come?

The voters in the UK started to show signs of wanting political transformation during the 2010 General Election when no party won an overall majority – leading the country into a coalition. Wide ranging change has been slow in coming and now the political classes have been given a bloody nose. Probably rightly so. Failure to listen to the electorate is a dangerous thing and for the first time in a long time, I'm proud to be British although I went to sleep last Thursday a good European and woke up an Englishman!

Many weeks of discussion will now ensue.

For the record, I think I have distilled the essence of why I favoured an exit. And, it comes down to this – our allies in the EU received 72 motions to consider changes to EU mandate's from the UK. 0 were passed. 72 – 0 is NOT a good score. If it was 72 – 36 we'd at least have won some concessions to the British amendments to EU rules and legislation. They're not listening to the electorate either. Other nations are taking note and a fairly easy prediction is that the Danes and the Swedes will want to consider their position sometime soon.

As a praying person, my prayers are for wisdom and discernment as we negotiate the next couple of years post-vote. The markets will do what they will do - the deal now is for genuine change, and to me that's refreshing.

Bye for now

God bless


By Karl Ayling, Jun 22 2016 10:46AM

Alexander III of Macedon (20/21 July 356 BC – 10/11 June 323 BC), commonly known as Alexander the Great

The last wishes of Alexander the Great........ On his death bed, Alexander summoned his army generals and told them his three ultimate wishes:

1. The best doctors should carry his coffin ...

2. The wealth he has accumulated (money, gold, precious stones)

should be scattered along the procession to the cemetery ....

3. His hands should be let loose, so they hang outside the coffin for all to see !!

One of his generals who was surprised by these unusual requests asked Alexander to explain .

Here is what Alexander the Great had to say :

1. "I want the best doctors to carry my coffin to demonstrate that in the face of death, even the best doctors in the world have no power to heal .."

2. "I want the road to be covered with my treasure so that everybody sees that material wealth acquired on earth, will stay on earth.."

3. I want my hands to swing in the wind, so that people understand that we come to this world empty handed and we leave this world empty handed after the most precious treasure of all is exhausted, and that is : TIME.

We do not take to our grave any material wealth. TIME is our most precious treasure because it is LIMITED. We can produce more wealth, but we cannot produce more time.

When we give someone our time, we actually give a portion of our life that we will never take back . Our time is our life !

The best present that you can give to your family and friends is your TIME.

May God grant you plenty of TIME, to share with all. Thanks to PS for this enlightenment

God bless

Bye for now


By Karl Ayling, Jun 7 2016 08:50PM

So with less than three weeks to go till polling day for the IN/OUT referendum here are some of my musings gleaned mostly from my personal thoughts and observations of the British media and from the world wide web. Thank God for our version of 'free speech' and my access to it!

I'm old enough to remember the UK entering the EU and some of the (very similar) arguments put to the electorate by politicians in the 1975 referendum. Butter mountains, anyone?

Coming out directly at this point to declare that at this time I'm probably for Brexit, I have been and remain keenly interested in the reasons that I should consider either sitting on the fence or even voting to stay in. There are a variety of reasons, arguments and statistics that could be influential one way or the other.

Trusting to my own judgement, assessment and opinions (maybe a risky thing to do); I feel that the deeply negative and adversarial nature of British politics in general and in particular in this IN/OUT campaign, has steered me to largely ignore the lies, damn lies and statistics bandied about by both sides and consider my own reasons for voting one way or the other.

If pushed to outline a couple of things that are being persuasive it's this:

I'm not sure that a United States of Europe suits the British psyche or that a USE suits my personal view of who we (the UK) are as a nation in the early 21st century. The Euro Zone is an absolute basket case with recession teetering in many of the countries with the single currency. Corruption is evident on an unprecedented scale across the continent.

The P.I.G.S nations remain deeply troubled and attached to the German economy for survival and the general principle of why the UK agreed to enter a club of just 6 nations no longer exists. Could it be that the EU has indeed had its day? At least from the point of view of the UK.

In a few weeks' time I'll know what the rest of the UK electorate thinks about this and whether the threatened internecine strife sitting just under the surface will rise to tear the Torys apart and perhaps even give us a new PM.

It is difficult to see why the sitting Government with all of the money being thrown at its campaign cannot come up with some well-considered, unequivocal and persuasive reasons that I should consider voting for them.

As for the Brexit crowd – there is an absence of charisma in any of the current crop of orators and an over-willingness to reduce the entire campaign to small argumentative sound-bites.

I guess we live in an era where we get the leaders that we deserve, with the integrity that we deserve, reflecting the fractures within our society right back at us.

Hope to have more to say about this issue soon.

Bye for now

God bless


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