By Karl Ayling, Jan 10 2019 09:53PM
My studies in the last couple of years have included both formal and informal training into personal insight and something called the internal supervisor. The internal supervisor is something of a structure for ongoing professional development for my work as a therapist in training. It is where I test out new ideas (and existing ones) and look at my immediate judgements, assessments and opinions in a gently critical way to see what I have learned, analyse it and choose whether to act upon it or not.
All in the name of personal development.
Kolb (1984) developed an Experiential Learning Cycle that consists of four stages;
Stage 1 - Concrete Experience (doing or having an experience)
Stage 2 - Reflective Observation (reviewing or reflecting on the experience)
Stage 3 - Abstract Conceptualisation (concluding or learning from the experience)
Stage 4 - Active Experimentation (planning or trying out what I have learned)
We as human beings have a certain tolerance for certain things. Change is no exception. Science tells us that at a cellular level change is extreme, ongoing and never ending. A concept that has proven to be a little scary for me and some of my colleagues.
Resistance is Futile.
Western philosophical thinking underpinned by Plato and Aristotle who broadly developed Objective Thinking and Subjective Thinking. Our political systems are based upon one or other of these principles and at an individual level people tend to exhibit a preference for one or the other.
Recent academic research has developed a potential third way, something called Experientialism (Lakeoff and Johnson 1980/2003) which attempts to bring understanding of language and thinking into a 21st century humanistic framework that puts individual experience at the heart of comprehension supported by empirical developments in neuroscience and brain function.
This gives an individual ammunition to choose to rely on their own experience or accept someone else's instead of their own.
So, trying to demystify what change is and that it is always happening can help with the anxious realisation that it is going to happen whether I like it or not. So what harm can be done by transitioning to an acceptance of change as inevitable and maybe look at the opportunity to take charge of what changes to accept or deny.
As a born again Christian I have the comfort of being able to also lean into my Father, and the literature of The Bible. This gives me an additional rich comprehension of what He means by change (His change is Transformational and Restorational) especially as outlined in the New Testament. The environmental toxicity that I grew up in would in a humanistic way have obliged me to reek revenge or adopt the ways of my parents in order to survive.
This impacted my behaviour and eventually left me with suicide as the only viable alternative to continuing with that way of life. Romans chapter 8 v28 say's, 'I will turn (change) for good all things for those that love me'.
Bye for now